It starts within
My relationship with my mother in law was not easy, for many years we fought, had intense disagreements and built up such a tense and difficult relationship, whilst my poor husband watched in the middle of it all.💔All whilst our marriage almost came to breaking point.
For 2 and a half years I lived in her home, shared the same kitchen, sat next to her on the couch, and it was so so emotionally difficult for me.😔
➡️ I lived on edge.
➡️ I began to over eat.
➡️ I developed chronic sinus infections - all due to the constant stress of being in that intense environment, and the constraint of not being myself.
This all put such a huge strain on my marriage, that created distance between me and my husband.
May Allah forgive our shortcomings, Ameen. 🤲
Years later when I worked on my healing, and my own personal development there was a shift in my thoughts and attitude towards her. ➡️During an intense argument one day, I looked at myself and realised this was not who I wanted to be as a daughter in law. Or wife.
🚫It did not align with me or my values.
🚫It did not align with pleasing my Creator.
🚫Nor pleasing my man.
And that's when I knew I had to change.
The very first change I had to make was within - not being afraid to be my true self. 😊Not hiding away from who I am and how I wanted to show up in our relationship.
It wasn't an easy transition, but choosing to look at what I loved about my mother in law rather than her shortcomings helped me to build and embrace our connection.💕 And in turn reconnect with my husband.
And now, I have built The Authentic Daughter in Law Method✨ to help you make the micro shifts in your relationship to build huge change in your connection to the woman who gave birth to your soul mate, and your marriage.
It's time to:
- stop feeling on edge and unsettled within.
- leave behind the anger and resentment that you have towards your man, for not "saving you"
- cure the sadness you have towards yourself for not doing better as a daughter in law and striving to please your Lord
- feel calm to be authentic around your mother in law
And instead:
- feel centred and content around your mother in law
- embrace a deeper connection with your soulmate as you work on the relationship with his mum
- feel pure and true acceptance towards her and yourself
- truly love her with wholeness and respect whilst maintaining healthy boundaries
- step into your true power and be fully authentic as a wife and daughter in law